January 2012
529 posts
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Carnival of Aces
Item the first!
The February Carnival of Aces— that is, that running from January 1-January 31— will be held at quod inane vocamus. The topic hasn’t been chosen yet but I’m just reminding you because,
item the second! The roundup post for January will be late. I’m not feeling well today and it’s going to ricochet into the rest of my week. I hope to have the...
The utmost height of fashion
I’m pioneering a new look today. Hippie bohemian slob.
I have to go flip some machines in the lab, and I might run into coworkers, so I managed to put together things that actually match, but that’s about as far as my caring goes. I also didn’t want to get out of bed this morning. Yay depression.
December 2011
207 posts
DJ Doesn't have sex for a WHOLE YEAR. →
redbeardace:
Gee, must’ve really been tough for that guy…
Let’s see, um… What is it, uh, nine and counting for me?
Presumably it’s tougher for him than you if he’s not ace?
Freibiergesicht: Genuine Asexual Question →
freibiergesicht:
Am I correct in assuming you identify as ace?
I think it would be very, very hard for the vast majority of non-asexual people to be happy in an exclusive, monogamous relationship where a) their partner is not sexually attracted to them and/or b) isn’t interested in having sex. I mean, mismatched libidos between non-aces in relationships is a huge relationship problem, one of...
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TW depression
Of course, when one is curled up on the floor sobbing hysterically for no apparent reason, “it could be worse” is not exactly a comfort.
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TW Depression, suicidal ideation
Sometimes I think, I’m making too big of a deal out of this depression thing. I’m okay, I’m always functional, I just have bad moods.
Then I have days like today and remember that that’s not the case. And, yeah, I have it a lot better than other people; I’m still functional, I just feel really bad, like I have the stomach flu but it’s in my soul, and I...
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GOP contenders hold expansive view of executive... →
Limited government, my left foot.
The Sociological Imagination Top 10 #7 – Pathology... →
There are some good things in this article. It is certainly possible to depathologize asexuality without preventing people with HSDD from getting treatment, and that’s what we need to work towards.
black eyed daisies: I'm really rarely tempted to... →
coppercoveredpixie:
greenchestnuts:
coppercoveredpixie:
but reading the Botkin sisters blog makes me want to curse, throw up, curse some more and then throw things.
emotional purity revisited:
“But even those who recognize that little schoolgirl crushes are immature and fruitless can still wonder, “Is it wrong to deeply, sincerely desire a young…
… ick. What is this?
Meet Anna Sofia...
black eyed daisies: I'm really rarely tempted to... →
coppercoveredpixie:
but reading the Botkin sisters blog makes me want to curse, throw up, curse some more and then throw things.
emotional purity revisited:
“But even those who recognize that little schoolgirl crushes are immature and fruitless can still wonder, “Is it wrong to deeply, sincerely desire a young…
… ick. What is this?
Jonah from How to Say Goodbye in Robot
fictionalaros:
Jonah is a character in the book How to Say Goodbye in Robot. He never expresses romantic interest in anyone throughout the book, and the other characters from his school even remark on this. When asked if he’s gay his best friend says that she doesn’t think he likes anyone, that he’s an equal opportunity disliker. The story focuses on him and his extremely close friendship with...
FACT: The mating ritual for asexual aromantics is...
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Two Tate-Tennant clips
Nan’s Christmas Carol Red Nose Day
These two kill me. They should be in everything together. I really admire how David Tennant can a) keep a straight face when saying “Doctor Who?” and b) do Hamlet and a fashionista ghost with equal ease. I really admire how Catherine Tate can keep a straight face too, and be completely unrecognizable as an old woman!
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Voyage of the Damned
Enjoying the Christmas snark. Technically, is this part of season three or four?
It’s good that the fat-shaming in the show is met with disapproval from the protagonists, but really? The fat man is the first to die?
I note in passing that Ten looks good in a black suit. Or however you call that to differentiate it from what he usually wears.
WHAT THE HECK. WHY did Mrs. Van Hoff jump...
“In one experiment, five young mothers were observed interacting with a 6 month...”
– Experiment detailed in my sociology textbook to detail the early impression of gender roles. (via emaconly)
Reminds me of the experiment some prof did. He let his class hear two fragments of a baby who cries and asked his class why the girl/boy was crying, while it was actually the same baby crying...
"Privileges" that don't exist
TW: acephobia, rape, sexual orientation conversion attempts
iamabutchsolo:
^ I do hear such accounts, and I mull it over. I think I’m going to hand this one to a post a while back from weexist-weresist that says it best:
“A rigid conceptualization within the medical world of something like asexuality is problematic but hardly imparts systemic oppression. I don’t think that the world of...
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Misogyny is cool now, part 4
Bechdel test: Season Three!
“Smith and Jones”: pass. Martha and Tish talking about Annelisa, although in a way it’s a conversation about their father bringing Annelisa to their brother’s birthday party. Subsequently Martha and Swales, another student, have conversations about what’s happening. One thing to note, even though Martha has several conversations with other...
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"The Unquiet Dead"
“Now don’t antagonize her. I love a happy medium.”
“I can’t believe you just said that.”
This is why I love Nine. And Rose. And Rose with Nine. He’s dark, but he’s so goofy.
“I hope— oh Lord. I hope that this theory will be— validated. Soon. … immediately.” Science.
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"Privileges" that don't exist
TW acephobia, assault, sexual orientation conversion attempts
iamabutchsolo:
^ Folks on the asexual spectrum are definitely invalidated by the GSM community and straight folks alike, but it’s really on an interpersonal level that I don’t believe is actually supported by institutional systems of oppression that would warrant being sexual in itself a privilege. Plus, I think the idea that being...
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That strange tingling feeling I feel is a growing...
meloukhia:
This post contains spoilers for the Doctor Who Christmas special.
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Reblogging this. Ugh, there were moments of that I really liked but there was so much wrong with it.
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20 Donna Noble moments →
“I just want a mate.”
“You just want to MATE?!”
“How is Harvey Wallbanger one word?!”
I like Donna because she calls Ten on his BS— in a completely different way from how River calls Eleven on his BS. And she’s his friend, and it’s just… that simple.
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Two Feminist Takes on Doctor Who: Donna and Amy
On Feministing, the temp from Chiswick: why I love Donna Noble.
On Tiger Beatdown, the Girl Who Waited: why I hate Amy Pond.
I don’t agree with everything in them, but I think they’re both well-written and well-argued. And I think the second piece in particular really nails what’s wrong with Amy qua plot device, not qua character.
Excerpt from the comments on the second...
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Sarah Palin criticizes Obama holiday card →
Really? Really?
PZ Myers at AlterNet: Evidence: There's No... →
There is no denying that the most important factor contributing to academic performance is cultural, not biological. Biology sets the limits, but culture determines what you do within those boundaries, and clearly, we have lots of room for improvement in intellectual accomplishment; most people aren’t bumping up against the physical limitations of what their brains can do. What we should be...
Terminology Poll
ketsundere:
That doesn’t really make me feel any better about my school counselor trying to fix me (since I ID’d as bisexual at the time) back when I was in high school, but okay.
That’s awful, I’m so sorry that happened to you. I can’t imagine that “technically that’s not supposed to happen” would make you feel any better.
Aromantics and Romantic Traditions?
aromanticaardvark:
Just a question to all of you, how do you feel about mostly romantic-exclusive traditions? For example, kissing under the mistletoe (since it is Christmas after all) or kissing at midnight on New Year’s. Do you take part in these traditions? Do these traditions annoy you or do you just not pay attention to them? Valentine’s Day is another, too.
I’m asking since I was thinking...
Terminology Poll
ketsundere:
Um, I don’t have a horse in this race because I can’t even decide whether I’m asexual or not, but…
*like, say, having a therapist trying to “cure” your sexual orientation when you go in for something completely different.
That happens to (not-asexual) gay, lesbian, and bisexual people too.
Yes. I know at least in the US, however, the APA (and other professional organizations?)...
It's cute when people say I just need to meet the...
theunfinishedwriter:
Oh wait, no it’s not.
There is nothing to be cured.
It’s like people just can’t accept that one can be happy without feeling sexually attracted to anyone (or anything). I do not aspire to find someone I am sexually attracted to. Sex has never played into my happiness or self worth. I am a complete person without it. Just because it’s a significant part of most people’s...
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And watching “Silence in the Library” after having seen the seasons with Eleven is heartbreaking.
I’d forgotten how angsty and brooding Ten was even when he was just standing there… does anyone else think he and older!River make a really good pair? She’s keeping it together because she knows this is the end of her life, but she’s pretty torn up, and he’s,...
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Going from watching the Tate-Tennant version of Much Ado About Nothing to season four of Doctor Who is surreal. Not only the accent switch, but that too. Does anyone know if there is a particular name for Donna’s accent? I know in MAAN Beatrice uses an estuary accent, which is what Ten uses in DW, and in MAAN Benedick is obviously Scottish, but I’m bad with accents and don’t know...
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Why it is Awesome to be an Ace
victorloshad:
I really liked making my top ten things I learned in college, so I thought this may be interesting
10: Since most adds are sex based, we never get suckered into buying something because of sex appeal, and thus save money.
9: Being able to follow the plots of movies because you weren’t distracted by some character who is supposed to be “sexy”. (this can get annoying when your...
How about this?
demisexuality:
Color-analogy to further attempt to explain that sexual attraction and love are not the same thing and sometimes occur independently of each other.
Let’s say love is blue and sexual attraction is red. Most people experience both, and usually at the same time, give or take. Red and blue make violet. So most people, for the sake of this analogy, would be violet.
Some people only...
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freibiergesicht:
When I say that general asexual is sex-negative (and I use that while being a fan of “sex-critical”) this is what I mean.
So the one secret maker gets to serve as an example of the general asexual, while the multiple aces who pointed out (even by the time of your exchange) that libido has nothing to do with orientation don’t?
acesecrets:
For all those out there who think they might not be completely asexual because they masturbate in cause of a libido, if you are still a teenager think that it might be because of your hormones playing in! Your body is still developing and responding in bizarre ways. I personally am now an adult and I don’t have those hormone levels problems anymore.
Yeah, adding my voice to the...
"Crimes Against Christmas" →
writingfromfactorx:
greenchestnuts:
You know, I’m a Christian who celebrates Christmas, and this is silly. I think the biggest “crime against Christmas” is how we’ve turned it into a day to celebrate buying and giving stuff. Lots and lots of stuff. Because nothing says “holy celebration” like “buy your family a mega-giant-uber big screen TV or you must not love them!”
Not everyone celebrates...
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"Crimes Against Christmas" →
You know, I’m a Christian who celebrates Christmas, and this is silly. I think the biggest “crime against Christmas” is how we’ve turned it into a day to celebrate buying and giving stuff. Lots and lots of stuff. Because nothing says “holy celebration” like “buy your family a mega-giant-uber big screen TV or you must not love them!”
Not everyone...
